Baby Shower Nightmare

My motive behind throwing the baby showers I planned was not gifts. Although they make our life easier, they were the last reason I wanted to celebrate with family & friends.

This pregnancy has been pretty lonely for me. I had an incredibly social life; going out nearly every weekend with friends and constantly having something to do. Since I got pregnant however, I have seen my friends very little and spent most of my time at home. A baby shower was one of the ways I could spend some time with my family & peers before Davin comes and I think I needed a little affirmation that I still have people that care.

We had planned a family baby shower with my mother over a month ago to give everyone enough time to plan accordingly. Brian's mom and my aunt's have demanding work schedules and I wanted to make sure everyone had the opportunity to show up. When we planned the baby shower, we even called Brian's mom beforehand to confirm that she could come that day- and made sure she knew we would be willing to change the date if necessary to accommodate her.

We thought everything was good. My family had all committed to being there and Brian's aunt led us to believe his family would be there as well.

Last night when Brian called his mom, she told him that she wouldn't be coming (and probably none of his family would come either). I was terribly upset but I didn't want to show it, because I could just see on Brian's face how angry and hurt he was. His mom has met my family on several occasions and our families came together to celebrate our engagement a few years ago. It's not like this would be the first uncomfortable meeting. There was really no excuse for it, except she lives in Pueblo and didn't want to spend the day she had off (that she requested for the shower) driving down to Denver and back.

Brian has complained to me before that he feels like my family is much more involved in our life (and the pregnancy) than his. I believe it's easier for them to be involved because I am naturally closer with my family and they are closer in distance as well. I have made every attempt I can think of to include his family in our pregnancy, I even created a website that his family could look at to see photos and updates on how things are progressing. I guess after all of the attempts that I've made, I feel as if they don't appreciate it....or maybe I'm being stupid.

They said they want to have a "shower" for us with his family when his father and grandmother come out here after Davin is born. That's a sweet gesture, but after the baby is born there isn't much we're really going to need. I'm far too prepared to not purchase the things on my registry that
we don't receive. I'm not looking a gift horse in the mouth, I guess I'm just trying to point out some of the reasons I'm upset over this.

I'll get over it, the situations just sucks. I feel terrible for Brian, I know he feels abandoned right now.

I went to a friend's shower a few months ago and none of her girlfriends took the time to show up. There had been a party the night before and everyone was too hungover to be there. It made me really sad for her. Now I'm worried the same thing will happen to me in a few weeks....*sigh* I guess all that matters right now is Davin's health and well being. Friends and family can get put on the back burner.